Barbara Coloroso is the author of Kids Are Worth It! Raising Resilient, Responsible, Compassionate Kids (2010). Her book is a great guide to understanding all kinds of family dynamics, not only essential for future and current parents, but for anyone who ever wondered why we are the way we are, and how we pass it on from generation to generation. Here are some of her insights.
Over the last decade, the feminist cultural critic, bell hooks, conducted very thorough research on love, covering all areas of the topic, starting from the need of a shared definition, to providing clarity on confusions about love in all our relationships, going back to our families of origin, and outlining the misconceptions and oppressions upheld by patriarchal structures and ideology. Her books change the way we view love as a society, and call for a more mindful love ethic.
When things fall apart in our lives, when we lose our jobs, when relationships or friendships fall apart, when we feel stuck in dysfunctional patterns, or when we feel generally unhappy, sooner or later we begin to ask ourselves why, what are we doing wrong, or why does it keep happening? Here is what I found.
Linda Kavelin Popov is a psychotherapist based on Salt Spring Island, BC. Her second book, A Pace of Grace (2004), is part-autobiography, part guide-book to a physically, emotionally, and spiritually sustainable life. She challenges her readers to evaluate their lives.
Ever wonder why we seem to be living in an age with so little stability and security – whether it is job security, relationships, political or social security, or even a sense of solid identities? Or why we seem to be constantly running and racing and chasing and never really feel fully satisfied or sustained? Sociologist and cultural critic Zygmunt Bauman provides some theories in his books Liquid Modernity (2000), Liquid Love (2003), and Liquid Times (2007).
Another lecture by Dr. Wilfried Reuter (medical doctor and Buddhist teacher in Berlin) from March 20, 2011 deals with separation, relationships, and detachment. What prevents us from being in relationships? Mental obstructions? Fear? Unresolved issues from old relationships? We need trust to let someone close to us.
Dr. Wilfried Reuter, a medical doctor practicing in Berlin-Kreuzberg, and a Buddhist teacher at the Lotos-Vihara meditation center in Berlin presented his lecture entitled: “Liebe ohne Leiden – buddhistische Hilfen für glückliche Beziehungen” (Love without Suffering – Buddhist help for happy relationships) at Urania. The lecture was completely sold out, the large auditorium was filled with men and women of all ages, who came to get an answer to the key question: “Is love even possible without suffering?”
Sooner or later we all stumble over questions of happiness. What exactly is it? What makes us happy? Why is it so elusive? Usually, when things are going well, we tend to take it for granted; when things are not going so well, we begin our research and analysis, and design our own happiness projects.
Miranda: Do you have a rolling pin?
Carrie: On me?
Miranda: In your kitchen.
Carrie: Are you kidding me, I use my oven for storage!